If you are in an honest healthy loving marriage seeing your wife pleasure and being pleasured by another man is beyond words hot! I was not sure if I could handle it so we took it very slow up to the moment of truth and at that moment we stopped and made sure we were ok. I never thought I would love it. One word of advice, have someone not participating man the camera and lights. I kept losing my hardon every time I messed with the cams and lights.